Love

Young and Married

Ladies welcome to the final Real Talk Relationship Series Episode Four!    In this  Real Talk episode, I sit down with longtime friend Kiarra and her husband Darryl Sykes as they share their profound love story.   During our discussion, Kiarra and Darryl expound on their Godly marriage, how they met and the personal struggles they’ve faced as a couple and individually. In addition, they provided practical tips on ways you can prepare for marriage whether you’re thinking about it, courting, or simply interested. Remember ladies: It’s all about sensing the soul before seeing it!   Real Talk Episode 4: Young and Married Catch up on other relationship-related stories here: Are REALLY Ready for Love? I Do, I Don’t Ummm… Maybe 🙄? Be Real, Do You Accept You for You? When Spirit Meets Soulmate Ladies, It’s Okay to be Single How to Build A Deeper Relationship with God  Love Yourself: Flaws and All  Meet the Sykes Darryl, 26, and Kiarra Sykes, 27 have been married for two years and together for five. They are both from Pennsylvania but moved to North Carolina in 2012 for college. They are entrepreneurs, authors, investors, YouTubers, & podcasters and have a special affinity for relationship ministry. In 2017, Darryl and Kiarra co-authored their first book Fire and Desire : The Courtship Curse . In their spare time, they love traveling, watching all things Marvel, and trying new restaurants. Hey beautiful people! Enjoy what you’ve watched? Share in the comment section below what stood out to you the most and what you took away. Can’t wait to here your response!

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Love Yourself: Flaws and All

Ladies welcome to the Real Talk Relationship Series Episode Three: Love Yourself: Flaws and All!   In this  Real Talk episode, I sit down with my close friends Maya Caldwell, Krystal Haynes, and LaDonna Ouedraogo as they dish out the importance of self-care.    During our discussion, each panelist provides personal testimonials of how they overcame life obstacles while learning how to love themselves. In addition, they provide practical tips on ways you can begin to love yourself with your flaws and all!   Remember ladies: It’s all about giving yourself grace!   Love Yourself: Flaws and All   Catch up on other relationship-related stories here: Are REALLY Ready for Love? I Do, I Don’t Ummm… Maybe 🙄? Be Real, Do You Accept You for You? When Spirit Meets Soulmate Ladies, It’s Okay to be Single How to Build A Deeper Relationship with God  Meet the Panel Maya, an Atlanta native is an actor, singer, and writer. She has performed in many theatre productions in Savannah and Atlanta. In addition, she’s performed in Stone Mountain Park Holiday Extravaganzas and the Children’s Museum of Atlanta. Maya is currently working on her new play and learning to truly love herself one day at a time.    LaDonna, a Savannah native, has been on the road to self-love all of her life. She’s experienced the ups and downs of what things could or should look like. As an actor, self-love becomes a part of her journey that she must “master”. Thank you for listening as to her and her friends join Erica in the true discovery of self-love. It’s a love like no other.   Krystal, a South Carolina native, is a Youtuber, faith-based blogger, and founder of Soul Care Naturals. Her ultimate goal is to encourage people to prosper in spirit, soul, and body just as Christ did while here on earth.  Connect with them  To find more about Krystal Haynes connect with her: Youtube: Krystal Prospers Instagram: @krystalprospers_ Blog: Krystal Prospers: Explore & Engage Business Site: Soul Care Naturals   To find more about LaDonna Ouedraogo connect with her: Instagram: @ladonna__o Twitter:@grwngpurpose4    To find more about Maya Caldwell connect with her: Instagram: @mayacaldwell2464 Twitter: @mayacaldwell13 Hey beautiful people! Enjoy what you’ve watched? Share in the comment section below what stood out to you the most and what you took away. Can’t wait to hear your response!

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Ladies, It’s Okay to be Single

Ladies welcome to the Real Talk Relationship Series!  This month, our focus is all about relationships. I know just by reading that word, many of you are cringing, but wait–before you hop to another link,  I promise you have no need to fear. We’re here to help! And what better way to jumpstart this series than from a male’s perspective.  Yes, you’ve read right! A man’s view. 😉  So, if any men are reading, this message is for you too!  In this  Real Talk episode, I sit down with my college friend Alton Hall.  During our chat, Alton expounds on the crazy roadblocks in relationships and provides great tips on how to help you understand your emotions in order to find love within yourself! It’s all about being single and lovin’ it! Ladies, It’s Okay to Be Single! Catch up on other relationship stories here: Are REALLY Ready for Love? I Do, I Don’t Ummm… Maybe 🙄? Be Real, Do You Accept You for You? When Spirit Meets Soulmate Alton believes his purpose on Earth has always been to give love through acknowledgment.  “I try my best to communicate with everyone on an individual level and I find people deeply appreciate it when you recognize greatness in them,” Alton said. “In uplifting others, I myself am truly lifted. I’m forever learning and that can wear you out if given from an empty place. So, I must be able to give with intention and through individual reflection. That is my source that never runs dry.”  To find more about Alton connect with him: Facebook: Alton D. Hall https://www.facebook.com/alton.d.hall/ Instagram: @hallson https://www.instagram.com/hallson/ Twitter: @altonhall  https://twitter.com/altonhall Hey beautiful people! Enjoy what you’ve watched? Share in the comment section below what stood out to you the most and what you took away. Can’t wait to here your response!

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The Key to Understand the Word of God

Are you calling out to Father God, but feel like you are not receiving a response? Instead of giving up it’s time to dig deeper and find out the key to understand the Word of God.  Do you recall your school days, waiting for the final bell to ring? Your Friday evening would already be set and your weekend plans were good to go.  With backpack intact and your eyes glued to the clock, in just a few seconds you would be free. Suddenly, your English teacher would state,”…Oh yes! Before I forget, I want a report on the book we’ve been discussing in class. It will be due this upcoming Monday.” The bell would ring right after their unwanted announcement and a smile of great joy would appear on their face because they had completed their goal to make your life miserable.  Oh, the agony! A huge sigh would escalate around the entire room and students would mumble how they couldn’t stand the teacher and they couldn’t wait to graduate. Sound familiar? Today, we find ourselves in similar situations. Whether at school or work, we are always tested or asked to do something we do not want to do. However, it must be complete or we will not receive benefits. This scenario, my friends, is very similar to the Bible.   Understanding the Word of God   For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires. (Hebrews 4:12 NLT) In the scripture above, the Bible is “very powerful and strong and sharper than any sword.”  This means its purpose is to shed light on our lives and speak the TRUTH. Although we don’t like to admit it, the truth hurts. As we grow deeper into the truth, note everything we read will not be understood at that time. For the things God allows us to understand,  we may not like. However, we must remember the Word is meant to strip us clean and make us whole again.   All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It corrects us when we are wrong and teaches us to do what is right. God uses it to prepare and equip his people to do every good work. (2 Timothy 3:16-17 NLT) Similar to the school teacher we could not stand, at the end of the day we were able to make it through their class right? What about turning in that book report? Although we did not want to do the work, when we received a good grade on our paper, we just couldn’t wait to show our parents. Throughout the Word of God you will likely run across scriptures you do not like and commandments you just don’t understand. Take Luke 6:27 which reads … love your enemies! Do good to those who hate you. Now I’m not sure about you, but when I began to know God and understand Him for myself this scripture was a hard pill for me to swallow. Alongside prayer, I would meditate on this scripture by repeating it over and over again.  Since I had been manipulated by friends and backstabbed by people who I had given my heart to, I didn’t know how in the world I’d be able to forgive them, better yet love them. Especially since all I was doing was praying and repeating a line. I wish I could tell you the change happened overnight, but it did not. This transformation took some time. I had to connect with Godly counsel, continue to seek God, and think positive when evil thoughts would come to mind. Nevertheless, slowly and surely God changed my heart. No longer did I have hate or malice against my enemies but my heart reached out to them. I wanted God to move into their lives and connect them closer to Him. My friends, this is why it is soooo important to get into the Word of God. The time we are living in today is crazier than ever, but with God’s Word, He will truly keep us from falling. If you truly desire Christ in your life, but can’t seem to find Him, ask Him for His help. Yes, classes, homework, jobs, extracurricular activities can get in the way, but we must remember that we wouldn’t have been able to even get to that stage in our lives without Christ. He deserves a portion of our time EVERY DAY! If you start off with a willing mind and an open heart to follow Christ and do as His Word says your life will change for the better. How do I know might you ask? I am a living witness. Now all glory to God, who is able to keep you from falling away and will bring you with great joy into his glorious presence without a single fault. All glory to him who alone is God, our Savior through Jesus Christ our Lord. All glory, majesty, power, and authority are his before all time, and in the present, and beyond all time! Amen.  (Jude 1:24-25 NLT)  Thanks for reading! Did you enjoy what you read? If so, comment below on how you incorporate God into your daily schedule! I’d love to know!

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Are You REALLY Ready For Love?

Are you in a relationship? Do you feel stuck? It is time to seek God and ask Him what to do. Once you receive your response the real question becomes: Am I Really Ready For Love? L.O.V.E, a four-letter word with much meaning, yet, is used too loosely. The word has become second nature and is used for everything. Prime example–Valentine’s Day. Now, before you judge me, just think about it. While women look forward to the holiday, most men do not–well except if they are single. Let’s be honest: ladies to receive a gift from a guy your heart leaps for joy. Men, just to walk around with a beautiful woman by your side, allows you to feel like a king. However, relationships shouldn’t be like that but much much more. Women, instead of chasing after a man to give a $5 stuffed animal, chase after God so He can provide you with the man who is necessary for you. Men don’t feel jealous of your friends because they have a girl and you don’t. Instead, surrender your heart to Christ and He will work things out in your favor. Although it’s easier said, it IS possible. Trust me. I was a sucker for men and wanted love. I wanted to receive a bag full of goodies and a card with the words “I love you” inside. In elementary school, at least I was able to get cards. but once high school and college came along, those gifts stopped. In July 2014, God revealed to me why I was single. Bottom line: I wasn’t ready for a relationship. To truly submit to a man, nourish and cherish him—Please! I could barely figure out who my real friends were. Thinking about what God shared with me, I could only agree with Him because He was right. As we grow older and look at the “role models” of entertainment from Kim to Kanye and Barak to Michelle, we wish to have a similar relationship one day. Let’s take Beyonce and Jay-Z for example. Since they have a child, great music careers and can often be seen together in photos with a smile plastered on their face, people automatically assume their marriage is true and their love is real. However, looks can be deceiving. No one knows what takes place behind Beyonce and Jay-Z’s close doors, so relationship goals shouldn’t focus on what you see from the naked eye on various screens. The Purpose of a Relationship It is important to take heed and hear God in order to find out if the person you are in a relationship with is truly for you. The purpose of a relationship is to grow and mature into marriage and shouldn’t be taken lightly. 1 Corinthians 7:1  reads,” … It is good to abstain from sexual relations.”  In verses 8-9 it reads, “So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.” In other words, if a relationship is solely based on sex, the outward appearance of one’s mate and/or the amount of money or gifts one can receive, that relationship will not last.  It is unclean and will not have an inheritance in the Kingdom of Christ. Final Thoughts My friends don’t fall for any and everything a person says he or she will do. Instead, seek and ask God for guidance. Don’t mope because you don’t have a valentine. Instead, praise God for the season you are currently in because when your Queen or Prince Charming comes more responsibilities will too. Always be true, trust and believe. Even though the journey can be tedious remember God will never put more on you than you can bear. Do you like what you’ve read?  Share what you’ve received. I look forward to your comments below.

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