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Are You REALLY Ready For Love?

Are you in a relationship? Do you feel stuck? It is time to seek God and ask Him what to do. Once you receive your response the real question becomes: Am I Really Ready For Love?

L.O.V.E, a four-letter word with much meaning, yet, is used too loosely. The word has become second nature and is used for everything. Prime example–Valentine’s Day. Now, before you judge me, just think about it. While women look forward to the holiday, most men do not–well except if they are single. Let’s be honest: ladies to receive a gift from a guy your heart leaps for joy. Men, just to walk around with a beautiful woman by your side, allows you to feel like a king. However, relationships shouldn’t be like that but much much more.

Women, instead of chasing after a man to give a $5 stuffed animal, chase after God so He can provide you with the man who is necessary for you. Men don’t feel jealous of your friends because they have a girl and you don’t. Instead, surrender your heart to Christ and He will work things out in your favor. Although it’s easier said, it IS possible. Trust me. I was a sucker for men and wanted love. I wanted to receive a bag full of goodies and a card with the words “I love you” inside. In elementary school, at least I was able to get cards. but once high school and college came along, those gifts stopped.

In July 2014, God revealed to me why I was single. Bottom line: I wasn’t ready for a relationship. To truly submit to a man, nourish and cherish him—Please! I could barely figure out who my real friends were. Thinking about what God shared with me, I could only agree with Him because He was right.

As we grow older and look at the “role models” of entertainment from Kim to Kanye and Barak to Michelle, we wish to have a similar relationship one day. Let’s take Beyonce and Jay-Z for example. Since they have a child, great music careers and can often be seen together in photos with a smile plastered on their face, people automatically assume their marriage is true and their love is real. However, looks can be deceiving. No one knows what takes place behind Beyonce and Jay-Z’s close doors, so relationship goals shouldn’t focus on what you see from the naked eye on various screens.

The Purpose of a Relationship

It is important to take heed and hear God in order to find out if the person you are in a relationship with is truly for you. The purpose of a relationship is to grow and mature into marriage and shouldn’t be taken lightly. 1 Corinthians 7:1  reads,” … It is good to abstain from sexual relations.”  In verses 8-9 it reads, “So I say to those who aren’t married and to widows—it’s better to stay unmarried, just as I am. But if they can’t control themselves, they should go ahead and marry. It’s better to marry than to burn with lust.”

In other words, if a relationship is solely based on sex, the outward appearance of one’s mate and/or the amount of money or gifts one can receive, that relationship will not last.  It is unclean and will not have an inheritance in the Kingdom of Christ.

Final Thoughts

My friends don’t fall for any and everything a person says he or she will do. Instead, seek and ask God for guidance. Don’t mope because you don’t have a valentine. Instead, praise God for the season you are currently in because when your Queen or Prince Charming comes more responsibilities will too. Always be true, trust and believe. Even though the journey can be tedious remember God will never put more on you than you can bear.

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2 thoughts on “Are You REALLY Ready For Love?”

  1. Amazing post here, perspective is everything and reading this I see you have that. I thank God because our generation needs to hear this. Keep up the awesome work.