“I Do”, “I Don’t” , “Ummm…Maybe?”🙄

Do you have a desire to get married? Are you constantly praying for a special someone to waltz into your life, pop the question and take you to a land of no tomorrow? I believe we all do.

We all want that special someone to hear what we have to say, take it into consideration and provide us with solid advice. We all want that special someone who will take us for who we are and accept us on our days of good, bad and ugly. Although that special someone is out there for each and every one of us, in God’s timing, I believe it is important to prepare before that special someone comes our way.

About three weeks ago, while scrolling through Instagram, I ran across an ad presented by Michael Pittman, a lead pastor of my church, the Gathering Oasis International. In his ad, he promoted a webinar that he would be hosting to showcase ways to create multiple streams of income and break poverty mindsets. To join the webinar the only thing he requested was that you sign up by clicking on the link that would be in his bio. Intrigued by his ad, I went to his bio, clicked on Linktree and chose the first link that appeared. Surprisingly, it had nothing to do with finances, but about fiancés and how to catch one.

Okay okay, so not actually catch one, but how to pray for your future spouse. Turns out Michael and his wife, Amanda Pittman, were helping to promote their good friends, Jamal and Nicole Miller, founders of “The One University ” and their upcoming challenge, “Pray For Your Future Spouse”. Here’s what they had to say:

How to Pray for Your Future Spouse

After viewing Michael and Amanda’s video and reading more about the challenge on Jamal and Nicole’s website, I was sold. I had nothing to lose. I was single, seeking, and interested in learning how to prepare for my future spouse.

Five days, five specific prayers, and five speakers each night! By Aug 23, I was floored with new knowledge and a new view on marriage and relationships as a whole.

During the challenge, there were three main points that stood out to me the most and I’d like to share them with you:

1.) Pray your future spouse has a relationship with God.

Tune your ears to wisdom and concentrate on understanding. – Proverbs 2:2 NLT

Have you written your list yet? You know, the sheet filled with information you want your perfect wife or husband to portray and have? On my list, one of my must-haves in a man is one who has a solid foundation with God. This does not make your spouse perfect, but it shows he or she is striving to be more in tune with God and willing to die daily for Him. So, while you pray they have a relationship with God, ask He strengthen the one you currently have with Him.

2.) Pray they are healed from the inside out.

Cast all of your cares upon Him, for He cares for you. 1 Peter 5:7 NKJV

We all have a past. There is no doubt that something has taken place in our lives that we wish we could take away and let go of. Unfortunately, we cannot erase our past, but we can heal from it. This is why it is important we pray not only for our future spouse’s healing but ours as well. Ask God to reveal to you and your future spouse what is needed to let go of and give it to Him. Allow Him to heal you both from the inside out.

3.) Pray they are sexually pure.

Honor the sanctity of marriage and keep your vows of purity to one another, for God will judge sexual immorality in any form, whether single or married. Hebrews 13:4 TBT

The body you live in is not your own. It is not made by man’s hands. You were bought with a price, so you must honor God with your body. Pray you and your future spouse remain sexually pure even when temptation arises. Remember, God provided you with power and authority to say no when the enemy comes your way.


Any of the points stated above stand out to you the most? If so, which one? What do you believe one should do when preparing for their future spouse? Share in the comments below. In my next post, I plan to dig deeper into this topic based on the response I receive, so stay tuned!